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What a Difference a Year Makes

Today it has been one year since Ian was diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes.

Ironically, my resolution for 2013 was LEARN.  Not exactly the kind of learning I was talking about.

365 days of learning new things about how our bodies work and how his doesn’t.

Learning how to eat right, give meds, deal with sick days, analyze blood sugars, and make decisions based on what’s happening at the very moment.

Diabetes is an unpredictable and random disease, to the point you despise its sick and twisted games….you can never expect the same day twice.

Sometimes a 24 hour period leaves you with a chart that resembles a roller-coaster at Cedar Point.

But this roller-coaster never comes to a complete stop. Ever.

Somewhere in the middle of this past year, I came to accept that.  You have to live in the moment, not worrying about the past or the future.

I am not sure what we are going to do to celebrate today. That’s part of living one day at a time. I guess when he wakes up, he’ll make that decision. My guess is probably a trip to Friendly’s…or he’ll ask me to make cookies.

Enjoying a sweet treat in Feb. 2013

Enjoying a sweet treat in Feb. 2013

Here is the link to his Happy 1st Dia-versary! post on my other blog.

The Little Garden That Could

Ian has been bugging me for years if we could make a garden.  This will be our fifth summer here and I finally said yes.

First of all, our yard is on a corner lot with a very small back yard so it is not the most conducive to a garden (or sadly, a trampoline, or sadder yet, a pool.)

Secondly, I figured I would be much like the Little Red Hen and “do it myself.” (Dee doesn’t do hard labor any labor and Ian bails on me sometimes.)

Thirdly, it’s a lot of work and summer is for relaxing.

Lastly, he doesn’t even eat vegetables! (Not a good reason, I know….)

So, on June 1st (our first day of summer vacation together), I picked them up from their dad’s and the first thing out of his mouth was “Can I dig a hole today?”

I sat on that idea for 24 hours, considered my options, and on Sunday morning, around 10:00, I gave that boy a shovel.

We picked a spot behind our garage (which needs painted really bad and will be by the end of the week!)

Ian wanted to “Go big or go home”  and was shooting for the world’s largest garden, but I limited it to a 6 x 6 foot space (with a lesson on perimeter and area).

Fortunately, we were blessed with a lovely day – partly sunny, mid 70s, low humidity and good attitudes from both children. (Dee even helped with this project!)

This took us about 3 hours to dig and prepare (the best that amateur gardeners prepare a garden). Our tools were limited…two tiny shovels, a rake and a garden weeder.

After the ground was all dug up and we were fully committed to planting vegetables, or replanting grass, we took a break and relaxed. “Relaxed”, if you have a 10-year-old Ian for a son, means playing 1-on-1 soccer and riding our bikes.

After dinner, we headed to the store to buy the vegetables.  There was a big debate if we should get seeds or if we should get plants. Dee was not very interested in the selection process but Ian studied the seed packets and the days to maturity and the directions for planting.

He based his decisions on the following questions:

  1. How long until we see results?
  2. How much digging will I get to do?
  3. Do you think I will eat this?

We ended up leaving with 2 tomato plants, 4 pepper plants, and seeds for carrots, lettuce, green beans, watermelon and corn. We also bought some seeds for decorative pumpkins and sunflowers which we will plant somewhere else.

We were still planting at almost 9 p.m. but it is pretty much a finished garden. (I will need to go back in and do a little more digging of grass today.)

Before bed, Ian said, “Do you think we will have to pull weeds tomorrow? I bet we will!”

But the quote of the day was when he said, “We so own a part of nature now!”

This should be a fun experience and adventure.  Stay tuned for more pics and updates on “The Little Garden That Could.”

The Mom I’m Not vs. The Mom I Am

Today I got to be the mom I’m not.

With two doctor appointments on the calendar, I didn’t go to work.

Today I woke up after you and just in time to see a beautiful sunrise.

Today I made your peanut butter sandwich in my pajamas while I drank my coffee and you ate your breakfast. You talked and I listened.

Today you told me, “We should be leaving now. We’re gonna be late!”

Today I waited in traffic and dropped you off in front of the school. I hollered, “Have a good day! See you after school! Love you!” as you walked away. And then I got to do the same with your brother two hours later.

Today I ran errands between my appointments in my gray cardigan and my gray Converse.

Today I listened to my favorite songs in the car.

Today I ate a hot lunch at the kitchen table and read a magazine just for fun.

Today I did the laundry and folded it and put it all away.

Today I not only thought about it, but made dinner (and Jell-O!) before school was even out for the day.

Today I picked up your brother from school without feeling exhausted and longing for a few moments to myself.

Today I watched you practice with the marching band.

Today I helped with homework and listened to stories about school.

Today I got you to the high school on time (even a little early) for your choir concert.

Today I put you both to bed, tired, but happy, and thankful for the day.


The amazing sunrise I saw today – snapped on my iPhone.

Tomorrow I go back to being the mom I always am.

Tomorrow I will rise and shine at 5:30 a.m. and wake up two groggy kids.

Tomorrow I will scurry to pack lunches if I don’t get to it tonight. (But only after I try to convince you to just buy your lunch at school.)

Tomorrow I will iron clothes with my eyes half-shut and wear shoes that I’ll probably regret later in the day.

Tomorrow I will be nagging you and your brother, “We should be leaving now. We’re gonna be late!”

Tomorrow I will flip through stations on the radio until I find a song you both love.

Tomorrow we will go in the back door of the school when it’s still dark and walk down the empty hallways.

Tomorrow we will eat breakfast in my classroom while I shuffle through papers and prepare for 1st period. You will talk and I will do my best to listen.

Tomorrow I will eat my salad and apple at my desk grading papers, replying to emails, checking Facebook, and reading my favorite blogs all in 40 minutes.

Tomorrow I will clean up my classroom and try to get lesson plans together while you tell me about your day and I will do my best to listen.

Tomorrow I will need to stop at the store after school and pick something up for dinner.

Tomorrow I will help you frantically look for the shirt you can’t find, but must wear, before we go to the football game.

Tomorrow I will sit with your brother and watch the football game. I will listen to him talk about football for three hours straight and I will be happy. Especially because I am just sitting down.

Tomorrow I will watch you perform with the marching band for the first time and think “Where has the time gone? When did she get so big?”

Tomorrow I will put you both to bed, tired, but happy, and thankful for the day.

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